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Signs to know you are in love ;)

You’ve dated your fair share of women and have always enjoyed
keeping your options open; but lately, there’s this one woman that has
you wondering if she’s “the one.”
In order to help you figure this out, I have compiled the following list
of the top 10 ways to know you’re in love.

Number 10
You’ve forgotten your ex
More often than not, a breakup is followed by a significant amount of
time spent thinking about her and wondering whether or not you guys
made the right decision in going your separate ways. Depending on
how long the two of you were together, these doubts can resurface
again and again.
Ever since you met her , however, the thought of getting back together
with your ex is the furthest thing from your mind. Come to think of it,
you barely recall what you found so great about your ex in the first

Number 9
You can’t stop thinking about her
Instead, you are consumed by thoughts of her . She just pops into your
head for no apparent reason, and you wonder if she thinks of you half
as much as you think of her. You wonder what she’s up to and even
consider calling her (but refrain from doing so for fear of looking
If she’s the last thing on your mind before you go to sleep and the first
thing on your mind when you wake up — and you’ve even dreamed of
her on a couple of occasions — then you don’t really even need to read
on to know if you’re in love (but should anyway, just to be sure).

Number 8
You care about her
There is a reason why you don’t really want to know too much about
the chick you had a one-night stand with: you don’t love her. When
you’re in love with a woman, you want to know all about her: who she
is, what she thinks, what makes her laugh. You truly care about her
and her feelings.
If you truly love a woman, you feel bad if she had a bad day or is
upset about something. You don’t try to cheer her up because you have
to , but because you can’t help it.
Number 7
You find her quirks charming.
She does and says things that make her different, and you like it. You
can’t quite put your finger on why, but it doesn’t even matter. You like
her just the way she is.

Number 6
You have great chemistry
You can’t be in love with someone that you have no chemistry with. If
you and her seem to always be on the same wavelength, and think in
similar ways, that’s a great sign. If you also generate enough heat to
set off a five-alarm fire bell, then she is probably someone that you
could fall in love with, if you aren’t there already.

Number 5
You don’t notice other women as much
Although you can’t help noticing a beautiful woman when one walks
by, when you’re in love, some of them tend to slip under the radar,
while others just pale in comparison to her. Furthermore, you don’t
seem to be flirting half as much as you used to.
You are slowly realizing that she’s often the only woman in the room
that matters, and, for some reason, that suits you just fine.

Number 4
You love spending time with her
This one is pretty obvious but important nonetheless. You look
forward to seeing her, and don’t care much about what the two of you
will be doing. Lately, just going for a walk with her sounds like the
best way you could possibly spend an evening.
Furthermore, when you’re not together, you miss her and wish you

Number 3
You don’t mind compromising sometimes
There was a time when it was your way or the highway, but, with her
it’s different. Not that she asks you to, but you don’t mind missing a
night out with the guys to be with her. And you find yourself trying to
incorporate her into your plans or altering them to accomodate her.

Number 2
Other priorities take a backseat
Your ever-important “to-do” list seems quite stagnant these days, as
being with her always manages to render your other plans and
obligations obsolete.

Number 1
You start thinking about the future and she’s in it
It used to be that the future with a woman meant your date on
Saturday night, but, with this woman, the future seems infinite. Not
only do you plan to see her this weekend, but you want to see her a
year from now as well.
She’s the one…

If you are currently dating a woman that makes you act in any of the
ways mentioned above, then you, my friend, are seriously falling for
her. It’s time to put away the little black book for a while and enjoy
the ride.


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Posted by on August 19, 2013 in 18+, FRESH!


Healthy Sex for Women


In Your 20s…

Practice Safe Sex

Nearly two-thirds of all sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) occur in women under the age of 25. In addition, the average unmarried woman in her 20s is more likely to have multiple partners, which increases her exposure to STDs and infections and ups the chances of an unintended pregnancy. Birth control can prevent pregnancy, but to guard against herpes, chlamydia, gonorrhea, and other STDs, it’s important to use a condom with every sexual encounter.

Get the HPV Vaccine

Although it’s recommended for 11- to 12-year-olds, many women age 13 to 26 can benefit from the human papillomavirus (HPV) vaccine, which guards against some high-risk HPV strains that cause genital warts and cervical cancer. Even with the vaccine, it is possible to contract another strain of the virus. There are more than 100 strains; the vaccine covers only four.

Have Regular Check-ups

If you’re sexually active, get a yearly Pap smear and pelvic exam starting three years after your first sexual encounter or by age 21. Because many STDs don’t exhibit any symptoms, a yearly STD screening is important, too.

In Your 30s…

Decide on Family Planning

In the security of a stable relationship, many women find that their libido lights up. But unless you’re looking to start a family, proper birth control is still important. The most popular method is the birth control pill. Other options: vaginal rings, birth control patches, shots, or injections, condoms (male or female), implantable rods, and intrauterine devices (IUDs). Talk to your doctor about your future goals and decide which birth control is right for you.

Speak Up About Painful Sex

Pain during sex may be a sign you have endometriosis. This is a reproductive disorder in which the endometrium, the tissue that lines the uterus, also grows on the ovaries, pelvis, and fallopian tubes. As the endometrium in your uterus sheds during your period, the misplaced endometrium in other parts of your body also sheds, causing inflammation and scarring in the pelvis. If left untreated, endometriosis may cause infertility and increase your risk for ovarian cancer.

In Your 40s…

Balance Your Hormones

The hormonal ups and downs of perimenopause (the five to 10 years before menopause) bring with them a lower libido, irregular periods, and vaginal dryness. A low-dose birth control pill or intrauterine device (IUD)—if you’re finished having kids—can help even out hormones and prevent unwanted pregnancies, which are still possible at this point.

Stay Alert for STDs

With half of all first marriages ending in divorce, many women find themselves single again in their 40s and 50s. You’re no teenager anymore, but the same rules of protection and precaution apply. Use condoms (or go back on the pill if you haven’t gone through menopause yet), and get regular STD screenings until you get into a monogamous relationship.

In Your 50s…

Mind your Menopause Symptoms

The average age for starting menopause is 51. With menopause comes a hormonal drop that can mean lower sexual libido, mood swings, and hot flashes—plenty of excuses to avoid sex altogether. But with your doctor’s help, you can manage the symptoms of menopause until your hormone levels even out.

Go for Lubricant

Lower hormone levels can leave your vaginal tissue thin and dry. That means sex may become uncomfortable—and undesirable. For many women, a little lubricant or moisturizer will help, but others may need a prescription cream that contains estrogen to relieve dryness and inflammation.

Talk About Your Surgical Options

After childbearing is complete, many women explore surgical options to ease abnormal bleeding, pelvic pain, or a sagging uterus (caused by weakened tissues and muscles from pregnancies and aging). The most common surgical option is hysterectomy (removal of the uterus). In some cases, if you’re dealing with fibroids or bleeding, other treatments such as endometrial ablation or uterine artery embolization are easier and require less recovery time.

In Your 60s and 70s…

Don’t Quit on Sex

Plenty of women over the age of 60 remain sexually active. And as pregnancy is no longer a concern, many find they enjoy sex more. Plus, people over 60 who have regular sex tend to be healthier than contemporaries who have sex less often or not at all.

Slow Things Down

It may take a while for both you and your partner to get going. Let foreplay take as long as you need, and you’ll cut down on the risk of injuries such as fractures and sprains. You’ll also enjoy the experience more as you both build up together.

Be Prepared

With the increase in erectile dysfunction (ED) drugs (and their prevalence in senior living centers and retirement homes), active sex lives are on the increase in older populations. But that doesn’t change the facts of vaginal dryness, STDs, and infections. In fact, because vaginal pH rises with the decreases in estrogen, your chances for infections, such as bacterial vaginosis, increase as well. Keep condoms and lube on hand, and don’t use soap to wash your vagina. Instead, look for a cleanser that has the same pH as a healthy vagina (between 3.8 and 4.5)

With the increase in erectile dysfunction (ED) drugs (and their prevalence in senior living centers and retirement homes), active sex lives are on the increase in older populations. But that doesn’t change the facts of vaginal dryness, STDs, and infections. In fact, because vaginal pH rises with the decreases in estrogen, your chances for infections, such as bacterial vaginosis, increase as well. Keep condoms and lube on hand, and don’t use soap to wash your vagina. Instead, look for a cleanser that has the same pH as a healthy vagina (between 3.8 and 4.5)

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Posted by on April 26, 2013 in 18+, FRESH!, Health


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Smoking upon awakening raises cancer risk: 14 easy ways to cure tobacco cravings


Past studies in animals have shown the NNK metabolite in rodents promotes lung tumors. Level of NNAL in the bloodstream can predict lung cancer in humans and rodents Branstetter says.

In the study, 1,945 smoking adults from the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey provided urine samples to measure NNAL along with information about their smoking habits including whether they smoked upon awakening.

Thirty-two percent had their first cigarette within 5 minutes of getting up; 31 percent within 6 to 30 minutes; 18 percent smoked within 31 to 60 minutes and 19 percent waited at least an hour to smoke a cigarette.

In addition to early morning smoking, other factors that influenced NNAL levels included number of years of smoking, age, gender and presence of another smoker in the home.

Branstetter and his colleague Joshua Muscat, professor of public health sciences discovered people who smoking as soon as they awaken in the morning had the highest levels of NNAL, regardless of how many cigarettes they smoke the rest of the day. He suggests the reason may be deeper inhalation of tobacco smoke.

The finding could mean asking a person about smoking in the morning could help identify people at higher risk for oral and lung cancer. Because NNAL remains stable, Branstetter says a single measurement of the carcinogen is reflective of a person’s exposure.

Identifying when a person has their first cigarette in the morning could lead to early interventions to help thwart tobacco related cancer the authors suggest.

Tips for curbing or stopping smoking

  1. Speak with your doctor about medications that can help control cigarette cravings
  2. Change your daily routine to help postpone your first cigarette of the day
  3. Walk in the morning and throughout the day. Exercise is known to temporarily decrease tobacco cravings.
  4. If you are trying to quit smoking, drink plenty of fluids to help with symptoms of withdrawal.
  5. Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables. Studies show people who munch on healthy foods are more successful at stopping smoking.
  6. Consider stop smoking aids like patches and gum to reduce cravings. Speak with your doctor first.
  7. Tell you family and friends you are trying to quit tobacco.
  8. Find a method that works best for you. Studies show even cutting back on cigarettes can improve lung health.
  9. Give yourself a timeline and understand it will take willpower to stick to it.
  10. Write down the reasons you have made the decision to stop smoking and put it in a prominent place.
  11. Practice deep breathing exercises that will not only improve lung health, but can relax you to get through the day.
  12. Buy yourself a treat with the money or join a gym with the money would spend on cigarettes. Put your money in a jar and watch it grow!
  13. Consider acupuncture, acupressure or hypnosis. The investment is well worth it for the return of optimal health and no more expensive cigarettes.
  14. Spend more time with non-smokers.

Cancer, Epidemiology, Biomarkers and Prevention
“Time to First Cigarette and 4-(Methylnitrosamino)-1-(3-Pyridyl)-1-Butanol (NNAL) Levels in Adult Smokers; National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey” (NHANES), 2007–2010
March 29, 2013

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Posted by on April 4, 2013 in 18+, Health, Technology




A little long, but if it does not concern you…. kindly move on….
sex during pregnancy

If you want to get pregnant, you have sex. No surprises there.

But what about sex while you’re pregnant? The answers aren’t always as obvious.
Here’s what you need to know about sex during pregnancy.
Is it OK to have sex during pregnancy?
As long as your pregnancy is proceeding normally, you can have sex as often as you like — but you might not always want to.
At first, hormonal fluctuations, fatigue and nausea might sap your sexual desire. As your pregnancy progresses, weight gain, back pain and other symptoms might further dampen your enthusiasm for sex.
Your emotions might take a toll on your sex drive, too.
Concerns about how pregnancy or the baby will change your relationship with your partner might weigh heavily on your mind — even while you’re eagerly anticipating the addition to your family. Fears about sexual activity harming the baby or anxiety about childbirth might team up to sap your sex drive. Changes in your self-image might play a role as well, especially as your pregnancy progresses.

Can sex during pregnancy cause a miscarriage?
Although many couples worry that sex during pregnancy will cause a miscarriage, sex isn’t generally a concern. Early miscarriages are usually related to chromosomal abnormalities or other problems in the developing baby — not to anything you do or don’t do.

Does sex during pregnancy harm the baby?
Your developing baby is protected by the amniotic fluid in your uterus, as well as the strong muscles of the uterus itself. Sexual activity won’t affect your baby.
What are the best sexual positions during pregnancy?
As long as you’re comfortable, most sexual positions are OK during pregnancy.
As your pregnancy progresses, experiment to find what works best. Rather than lying on your back, for example, you might want to lie next to your partner sideways or position yourself on top of your partner or in front of your partner.
Let your creativity take over, as long as you keep mutual pleasure and comfort in mind.
What about oral and anal sex?
Oral sex is safe during pregnancy. If you receive oral sex, though, make sure your partner doesn’t blow air into your vagina. Rarely, a burst of air might block a blood vessel (air embolism) — which could be a life-threatening condition for you and the baby.
Generally, anal sex isn’t recommended during pregnancy. Anal sex might be uncomfortable if you have pregnancy-related hemorrhoids. More concerning, anal sex might allow infection-causing bacteria to spread from the rectum to the vagina.
Are condoms necessary?

Exposure to sexually transmitted infections during pregnancy increases the risk of infections that can affect your pregnancy and your baby’s health.

Use a condom if:
Your partner has a sexually transmitted infection
You’re not in a mutually monogamous relationship
You choose to have sex with a new partner during pregnancy

Can orgasms trigger premature labor?
Orgasms can cause uterine contractions, but these contractions are different from the contractions you’ll feel during labor. Orgasms — with or without intercourse — aren’t likely to increase the risk of premature labor or premature birth.
Similarly, sex isn’t likely to trigger labor even as your due date approaches.

Are there times when sex should be avoided?
Although most women can safely have sex throughout pregnancy, sometimes it’s best to be cautious.
Your health care provider might recommend avoiding sex if:
You have a history of preterm labor or premature birth
You have unexplained vaginal bleeding
You’re leaking amniotic fluid
Your cervix begins to open prematurely (cervical incompetence)
Your placenta partly or completely covers your cervical opening (placenta previa)
What if I don’t want to have sex?
That’s OK. There’s more to a sexual relationship than intercourse.
Share your needs and concerns with your partner in an open and loving way. If sex is difficult, unappealing or off-limits, try another type of contact — such as cuddling, kissing or massage.

After the baby is born, how soon can I have sex?
Whether you give birth vaginally or by C-section, your body will need time to heal. Many health care providers recommend waiting four to six weeks before resuming intercourse. This allows time for your cervix to close and any tears or a repaired episiotomy to heal.
If you’re too sore or exhausted to even think about sex, maintain intimacy in other ways. Stay connected during the day with short phone calls, email messages or text messages. Reserve a few quiet minutes for each other before the day begins or while you’re winding down before bed.
When you’re ready to have sex, take it slow — and use a reliable method of contraception if you want to prevent a subsequent pregnancy………

Pregnancy is the most beautiful thing and the most treasure moment in a woman’s life,,,,,but she still need that connection with her man, don’t deprive her of it…
(Nigeria Health Directory 2013)

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Posted by on April 1, 2013 in 18+, Health


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A new study conducted by monitoring the brain waves of sleeping adolescents has found that remarkable changes occur in the brain as it prunes away neuronal connections and makes the major transition from childhood to adulthood.

“We’ve provided the first long-term, longitudinal description of developmental changes that take place in the brains of youngsters as they sleep,” said Irwin Feinberg, professor emeritus of psychiatry and behavioral sciences and director of the UC Davis Sleep Laboratory. “Our outcome confirms that the brain goes through a remarkable amount of reorganization during puberty that is necessary for complex thinking”

The research, published in the February 15 issue of American Journal of Physiology: Regulatory, Integrative and Comparative Physiology, also confirms that electroencephalogram, or EEG, is a powerful tool for tracking brain changes during different phases of life, and that it could potentially be used to help diagnose age-related mental illnesses. It is the final component in a three-part series of studies carried out over 10 years and involving more than 3,500 all-night EEG recordings. The data provide an overall picture of the brain’s electrical behavior during the first two decades of life.

Feinberg explained that scientists have generally assumed that a vast number of synapses are needed early in life to recover from injury and adapt to changing environments. These multiple connections, however, impair the efficient problem solving and logical thinking required later in life. His study is the first to show how this shift can be detected by measuring the brain’s electrical activity in the same children over the course of time.

Two earlier studies by Feinberg and his colleagues showed that EEG fluctuations during the deepest (delta or slow wave) phase of sleep, when the brain is most recuperative, consistently declined for 9- to 18-year-olds. The most rapid decline occurred between the ages of 12 and 16-1/2. This led the team to conclude that the streamlining of brain activity — or “neuronal pruning” — required for adult cognition occurs together with the timing of reproductive maturity.

Questions remained, though, about electrical activity patterns in the brains of younger children.

For the current study, Feinberg and his research team monitored 28 healthy, sleeping children between the ages of 6 and 10 for two nights every six months. The new findings show that synaptic density in the cerebral cortex reaches its peak at age 8 and then begins a slow decline. The recent findings also confirm that the period of greatest and most accelerated decline occurs between the ages of 12 and 16-1/2 years, at which point the drop markedly slows.

“Discovering that such extensive neuronal remodeling occurs within this 4-1/2 year time-frame during late adolescence and the early teen years confirms our view that the sleep EEG indexes a crucial aspect of the timing of brain development,” said Feinberg.

The latest study also confirms that EEG sleep analysis is a powerful approach for evaluating adolescent brain maturation, according to Feinberg. Besides being a relatively simple, accessible technology for measuring the brain’s electrical activity, it is more accurate than more cumbersome and expensive options.

“Structural MRI, for instance, has not been able to identify the adolescent accelerations and decelerations that are easily and reliably captured by sleep EEG,” said Feinberg. “We hope our data can aid the search for the unknown genetic and hormonal biomarkers that drive those fluctuations. Our data also provide a baseline for seeking errors in brain development that signify the onset of diseases such as schizophrenia, which typically first become apparent during adolescence. Once these underlying processes have been identified, it may become possible to influence adolescent brain changes in ways that promote normal development and correct emerging abnormalities.”

Feinberg’s study, which was funded by the U.S. Public Health Service (grant R01MH062521), was co-authored by Ian Campbell, a project scientist with the UC Davis Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences.

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Posted by on March 29, 2013 in 18+, Uncategorized


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BE THE MAN YOU WANT….Avoid poor service delivery


When I was growing up and became sexually active (at about 21 years of age), I had premature ejaculation. The excitement, maybe, of finally getting a girl to be interested enough to drop her pants for me, caused all sorts of trouble and, of course, early discharge.

My first girlfriend then was so profoundly frustrated she ended up going out with a 40-year-old ‘experienced’ man. Poor girl! She is still marrying old men till today.Image

My next girlfriend fared no better. She was fond of chewing gum and watching television during sex. No matter how much action was going on, she always looked relaxed as she changed channels. I cannot remember now what happened to that relationship or why it failed.

Now, as a doctor, I am more in tune with my patients who suffer from poor erection and premature ejaculation. Erectile function is one of the key questions I ask my patients complaining of back or neck pain. Many do not share the information voluntarily but open up once I let the cat out of the bag.

When I have a couple in the clinic, the man often says things are alright, while the woman sits quietly, rolling her eyes up and down. She should know, as she is at the receiving end!

Hadija left her husband after three years of poorly consummated marriage. She tried her best but was simply not getting the service she signed up for. All the money and financial security could not stop her from walking out of the marriage. Poor husband! It is not something he can talk about openly.

Poor erection

Almost all men sometimes have trouble getting or keeping an erection and it is common in adult men. In many cases, the problem goes away with little or no treatment. In other cases, it can be an ongoing problem. An erection problem that does not go away can damage your self-esteem and ruin your relationship. It therefore needs to be treated.

Erection problems become more common with age. Physical causes are more common in older men. Emotional causes are more common in younger men. The causes range from diseases such as diabetes, hypertension, thyroid problems, lack of interest, low self esteem, drugs such as Digoxin, to drug abuse — using cocaine, alcohol and smoking — can lead to failure of erection.

Unrealistic expectation, poor communication with partners and bad previous sexual experiences are other issues.

An erection involves your brain, nerves, hormones, and blood vessels. Anything that interferes with these normal functions can lead to problems getting an erection. Couples who cannot talk to each other are likely to have problems with sexual intimacy. Men who have trouble talking about their feelings may find it hard to share their anxiety about sexual performance. Counseling can help both you and your partner.

There are also many drugs now available for promoting better erection and therefore improving the ability to penetrate and satisfy your partner. These drugs, such as Ostrin, improve service delivery.

There are also specific instructions to be followed when using of drugs.

Warning: Buying drugs from mallams outside night clubs and inside Danfo and Molue is a dangerous practice. These poisons may do more harm than good and further destroy your ability to obtain a satisfactory solution. Say ‘NO’ to unethical herbal concoctions that are not standardized those drugs that ‘cure all!’

Premature ejaculation

This is often a problem during the teenage years and of no lasting consequence. It can be easily corrected in teenagers by general relaxation, experience and specific training. Actually, most men experience premature ejaculation at least once in their lives. The incidence is as high as 30 per cent, because there is great variability in both how long it takes men to ejaculate and how long both partners want sex to last.

The average time for normal intra-vaginal ejaculation to occur is about six minutes in most encounters. Ejaculating before two minutes may be considered premature, but it depends on the partners, as to whether it is adequate or constitutes a problem. Therefore, teenagers and young adults need not worry about this. A patient partner and comfortable surroundings help to achieve the impossible (last more than five minutes!).

Of course, there are tricks to use in delaying the inevitable. These techniques include concentrating on your partners’ fulfillment first, increasing the time allocated to foreplay and practicing coitus interruptus. This means slowing down and withdrawing, intermittently, for as long as possible.

For an adult who has recently developed premature ejaculation, the problem is totally different and demands more care and attention. A clinical examination is important to check for diseases such as diabetes and hypertension. If it is psychological, it may require the services of a psychologist to unravel the issues, which may or may not be related to the relationship.


Ostrin, Dapoxetine are a useful drug for the treatment of premature ejaculation. It significantly improves erection and is generally well tolerated. Ostrin or Tramadol also helps in greater than 90 per cent of men. Finally, desensitising creams such as Stud that are applied to the tip and shaft of the penis can also be used to prevent premature ejaculation. Such creams are applied on an “as needed” basis and have fewer systemic side effects.

It’s good to talk

If you have any of these two problems, you have to talk to two people. First and foremost, have a frank discussion with your partner and search for ways to resolve the problem. Talk openly to your partner about sex and your relationship. Other things to do are as follows: Get plenty of rest and take time to relax. Exercise and eat a healthy diet to keep good blood circulation. Cut down on smoking, alcohol and illegal drug use. Use safe sex practices to prevent HIV and STDs.

The second person to talk to about this problem is your doctor. Your doctor should be able to help or refer you to a specialist or a counselor. Get help early so normal ‘service’ can resume.

If you think you need one let me know, i would willing be of help.

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Posted by on March 27, 2013 in 18+, Health


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